deonb
Active Member
If you want to listen to a great talk on the subject of wisdom being replaced by knee-jerk rules, and hear a horrendous story of an innocent parent being persecuted, watch this by Barry Schwartz at TED in 2009. If you are impatient for the parenting story, start at 5:45, but I hope you will listen to the whole gem.
Wow. This is just utterly ridiculous, but not surprising in the U.S. culture.
When I grew up in South Africa in the 80s in 90s, the rule was that you can't drink until 18, unless you had parental consent. Parental consent ruled absolutely - I remember I was 14 and being able to order wine with steak in a restaurant, and waiters checking with my parents for approval. At home, I had my first small drink at 9, and started drinking 5% wine coolers like Mike Hard's lemonade regularly at the age of 12. I didn't really like anything else until I was 16.
The last time in my life I really binge drank was when I was 17. Got sick a few times and have been taking it slower ever since. I was making the same mistakes that literally every college kid in the U.S. makes, except I did it in a safe environment at home. At 17, it means this was one full year before the first time I was legally (and actually) allowed to operate a vehicle.
Since then, I've never even gotten close to driving while over the legal limit. I still don't drink alone even today - I learned it as being a social experience, and it still is one today.
Now compare this to someone who can drive for 5 years before being allowed to experiment with alcohol in any way. This often ends really badly, or if it doesn't it's pure luck that it doesn't.
I know my situation is not unique, my nieces and nephews are still raised with the mantra - if you're going to drink, drink under my roof. This style of parenting actually does work, but in the U.S. that is a total taboo to even discuss this.
Sometimes parents really are better at raising their kids than the government. But actually, some anonymous "government" is not the issue. People overwhelmingly approve these laws in the U.S. - it's the whole notion of wanting to force everybody around you to live the same way as you do. i.e. The American definition of "freedom".