No, the petroleum refining is not the second largest water consumer in California. That's a complete flat-out lie.
The second highest water use in any state - including Texas (the state with the most refineries) - is the electric power industry. The first highest water use in every state is always agriculture. Usually the 3rd-10th highest users don't equal the total volume of the electric power sector.
No, it does not take any electricity off the grid to refine gasoline: That's a complete flat-out lie.
The refining process produces plenty of "petroleum coke" as a waste product that is burned in cogeneration power plants, and the heat and some of the electricity is used in the refinery, but the majority of that electricity is produced and sold to the grid. The exact ratio is ~1/267th of the electricity produced by petroleum refining is used in petroleum refineries - most of this power is used for things like lighting, electronic sensors, and office climate control..
The requirement for ICP oil shale recovery is HEAT, not electricity. Ergo, they typically use burners, not electric heaters. ICP oil shale recovery is experimental, and accounts for ~1/1000000th to 1/100000th the total oil on the market in any given year. To highlight THAT as proof that electric cars are somehow more efficient than ICE vehicles shows exactly how desperate the EV industry is to find a positive comparison (The numbers actually do work out slightly in the ICP oil shale's favor when compared to EV's, btw, but it's certainly a harder case to argue than the 99.999+% of the oil on the market that is not ICP oil shale derived).