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I don't know you well enough to be able to peer into your mind, but when I thought about your initial four bullets, the following thoughts come to mind.
"- I want the most long-term value for the car as I intend to keep it well past the 10-year mark without having to replace the original battery too soon."
I don't know that we can assume that the battery will be replaceable. If it is replaceable, I don't know that we have enough information to know 1) how expensive it will be and 2) what the technology will be 10 years from now. Who is certain? There may be a different technology. In the event that your first bullet concerns long term value, my concern as a buyer 10 years from now would be "is this used electric car going to get me from A to B when I need it most?" Given the degradation patterns, the bigger the battery, the longer the life of the car (speaking in terms of range).
Winner: 85 kWh
"- My commute patterns add up to no more than 80 miles per day as of now. Weekend trips would not exceed 200 miles."
Your daily commute obviously puts you well within a comfort zone of either battery. The question I have about your weekend trips would be how frequently? If it is every weekend, you're going to have to consider how you could stretch your 60 kWh battery with your lead foot. Does your route have chargers? Will you have the capacity to charge at a reasonable rate (HPWC, NEMA 14-50) at your destination? To argue that supercharing access will be commonplace in the future may not help you in the next couple of years. So, if the need is here and now for these 200 mile weekend trips and you don't want to use your wife's car (an ICE?), go with the larger battery.
Winner: 85 kWh
"- Wife wants me to get the 60 to keep the price down but, I might have some wiggle room there still."
Winner: wife (no room for debate here!) Should I stop here or continue? :smile:
"- Wouldn't mind the earlier delivery of the 85 kWh-optioned car at all."
How anxious are you? Are you at the hurry up and wait stage? Is there a vocal minority in you that wishes to wait and see how the Tesla performs over the next year? If "wouldn't mind the earlier delivery" really means "I want it ASAP," go with the 85 kWh.
Winner: 85 kWh.
In terms of the options, really all this is subjective and only you and your wife can answer these questions. But given the four bullets you've laid out, it would seem that the 85 kWh option is the way for you to go. My personal opinion regarding the options:
1. Tech package: very nice additions, and I plan on getting it. To be frank, however, I've never had ANY of those features in any of my cars, and I've managed fine. You don't know what you don't know, right? Well, this is one feature that I am finally getting.
2. Sound studio: meh. I'm an ENT, and I want to be hearing well into my golden years
3. Active air: I think I am going to get this purely for the snow in the Chicago suburbs. I imagine that's not a problem where you live. Since I haven't driven the Model S yet, I really don't know how smooth the ride is. But given the poll I administered and everyone's comments, it seems to be noticed. I will probably get this.
4. Parcel shelf: getting this myself, but it is a complete rip off
5. Leather: Never had "real" leather in a car, but I do like seat memory and heated seats (more so my wife). Will be getting this option myself.
So, if you can live without some of these luxury items, I'd go with the 85 kWh since it satisfies your "must haves." If you can do without your tech package, the prices are basically the same.