I'm in the accelerator pedal camp. One pedal for the motor, another for the friction brake. Keep a modest buffer space in front and move the pedal smoothly. In stop-and-go traffic on a highway, this is difficult at best in the left lane. I always move out of the left lane if I see a slow-down ahead. The left lane is prone to jack-rabbit starts and brake stomping fests, and almost always averages less advancing than the other lanes. Not worth the aggravation even if you gain a few car lengths anyway.
If you decelerate with regen just to the point of turning on the brake lights, then push the accelerator a bit, the brake lights will go out even if you're still in regen. They don't stay on just because you're in a tiny amount of regen. I've seen this myself on an empty road at night. You can flash the brake lights by moderating regen.
There is a private thread on that other forum, someone posted that they used an assistant to watch the brake light in the car image while the driver watched the regen kW meter at different speeds, and there does appear to be an algorithm. I'm not sure why it's private, so I won't copy any info here. If the curve can be extrapolated though, at some speed (probably above 70MPH though) full 60kW regen may not turn on the brake light at all. I don't get that fast often, so I don't know. It is agreed though that "brake lights turn on at 30kW" does not always hold true.