1. If you sign up for SREC, you should get paid a fixed amount for each kWh that you produce. On our contracts, I think we get the SREC credits for the first 10 years and then Tesla gets them after that. Read the fine print.
2. DO NOT sign up for demand pricing. It can greatly increase your monthly bill. While you pay less per kWh, it's something like $15 * the peak kW used during the month. We have multiple Teslas and sometimes charge more than one at once. Last week, Storm Watch kicked in while a car was charging and we hit 24 kW at 6 am in the morning. If another car had been charging as well, we would've hit 35 kW. If we were signed up for demand pricing, we would've had a minimum bill of $360 just because of that one charge (or $525 if both cars had been charging when the Powerwalls started charging). With ToU and sufficient Powerwalls, you can virtually guarantee all of your usage is from the off-peak period. According to the Tesla app, 99.5% of our usage is billed at off-peak rates. The nice thing is that our solar produces a lot during peak and shoulder periods and Xcel gives us credits at those rates. I don't remember the exact costs but I believe they are something like $0.13/kWh shoulder and $0.20/kWh for peak. Since 99.5% of our usage is at off-peak rates (around $0.10/kWh), our peak production credits go twice as far and shoulder are about 30% more.
3. A 13 kW system is pretty big. What percentage of your usage did they say it would cover? I think our usage was 1600 kWh to 2000 kWh before we put in solar. Our original 16.5 kW system was estimated to cover 141% of our usage but we knew it wouldn't be enough. We had to wait a year and then added another 4 kW. While prices have come down, we're glad we put in as much solar as possible. We've had several multi-day grid outages since getting solar but really haven't had any outages thanks to our solar and Powerwalls.
4. We chose to bank our credits. They roll over every month indefinitely. Since I'm WFH and not driving as much, we have 5500 kWh credit so far this year. We can't get a refund on this but don't mind racking up credits as they will help us cover our electric usage from November - February when we get more snow, the days are shorter and our solar production is only about a third what we produce in the summer. We've had a surplus on our bills since March of this year.