I think that's the big gap here. Like I get that Tesla says in the little warning screen when you turn on autosteer that you are still in charge. I get that people are responsbile for their own actions. I get that other drivers are often way worse than AP.
But, as mentioned earlier on this thread, Tesla isn't some scrappy upstart with a bunch early adopters buying 6-figure exotic luxury cars. Any Jim or Jane that qualifies for a $30k auto loan can one now and they do! Two million of them in fact.
So the risk of someone abusing it (the same drivers you mentioned above) is extraordarily high.
Like just in this forum thread, people are descrbing how and why they defeat the nags. Joking about how they look at their phones or have a weight on their wheel, etc.. Those people, combined with calling it "autopilot" and the company CEO telling people that they don't need to pay attention lead to even higher rates of misuse and to deadly effect.
Just because other cars kill people doesn't mean Tesla gets a free pass to release something different that kills people.
(And it's not even necessarily safer, that's your opinion. Until Tesla releases raw data that we can compare to safety in similar driving contions, their words mean nothing. Most people use AP on the highway and so all those miles are balanced against all miles driven which are mostly driven on back roads, not even close to apples to apples)