Talk about dodging a bullet! What great reaction from your wife!
Just doing a little analysis on that video -- WTF happened with the SUV driver? All they had to do was slow down and let that merging car in, which it looked like he/she was already doing. As far as I can tell, there's NO reason for them to have swerved so suddenly like that. There's nothing in front of them, and the silver car is still in the merging lane waiting to merge. Looks like the SUV panicked and swerved left, when they just could have slowed down and let them in. Hopefully the silver car is 0% at fault for this (that car is totaled!) -- the SUV is entirely responsible for this accident. Hope you gave the video to the insurance companies.