I disagree. If you are buying and selling across the utility grid, you should contribute to the cost of building and maintaining that grid. If you have balanced usage, that is very different than saying you have no usage. If I drive round-trip across a toll bridge, I still pay the toll bridge both ways -- I don't get my money refunded for driving back across.
The serious policy question is the rate to charge. Personally, I think the cost of interconnecting a residence should simply be a flat charge, not usage based. The "wear and tear" from usage is minimal; it's mostly physical aging and catastrophic failures (tree limbs, etc.) that drive distribution costs. Furthermore, there should be some assessment of transmission cost savings from having distributed solar on the system, placing less load on the transmission and deferring expansions.