That really does suck. I'm about to be one of those people with possibly a 12 week wait from order! I do understand the agony of waiting, and how from our end, the delivery process can seem so messed up and unfair. Clear communication is ideal and should be simple, and also it's really hard when a company is booming. I really don't think people on the Tesla side are enjoying the chaos or lack of info either - they have to deal with us, haha. It's through this kind of growth that they learn how to adapt and create systems for high demand during quarters where they are under pressure to perform. I think we have to grow with them. It still sucks, don't get me wrong, but I've seen many posts where people are comparing them to other companies which shows a deep lack of understanding of what Tesla has gone through, and is aiming for.
They were under pressure last year when we got our 2020 M3P and the whole process was pretty impressive, but we could tell they were working hard to pull everything together. I can't image what this quarter must be like for them
What you said about available P build capacity makes sense and better describes what I've been learning about which is that they make a certain amount of different models and trims and combinations and allot that batch to an area.
Similar to your story, our friends ordered a SR+ a few weeks back, and they have't received it but there are others in the area that have received their SR+ same trim and colour with same or slightly later order time. It's their first Tesla and with that weird order issue, I do feel extra bad for them. It's really hard to wait for something you're this excited about, it will be a rough wait for us if we have until March!
I hope you get yours very soon!