Yeah I've seen other reports of that. Seems most common with the very low profile 235/35 size. Be thankful you've only had tire issues so far and not cracked or bent a wheel yet. I can dig up a pic of our cracked Model S P85 wheel if you like, that had a similar 245/35 tire size.
The huge heavy cast wheel with rubberband tires combo is just for looks. If you want better function especially over real-world nasty roads, switch your M3P to 19" or even 18" wheels with correspondingly taller sidewall tires (to get approximately the same outer diameter).
For example I switched out my M3P's 20x9" wheels + 235/35R20 PZ4 tires for 18x8.5" wheels wearing 245/45R18 Potenza Sport tires. Compared to stock the new setup has more grip dry+wet, better ride (takes the edge off), better efficiency, and way way better protection from ill-maintained roads. Now I drive this car fast over most such roads, instead of stressing about popping a wheel or tire. (I still dodge super deep wheel swallowing potholes of course.)
Edit: If you're wondering why I'm saying you should change out wheels+tires on your Tesla just to avoid popping them, but never needed to with your previous cars...believe me I feel the same frustration with Tesla's wheel choices. Before that cracked Model S wheel it never occurred to me that I'd have to worry about such things from just driving down a road.
And yes we switched the S to smaller wheels too. No more cracked wheels on it either now.