We all are looking for something different, I do see value in those options, and I'm not a luxury buyer so I hate to second-guess. But if these are must-haves for luxury, are you really willing to put up with the noise, poor throttle response, vibration, jerky acceleration, and inconvenient fueling of a gasoline engine when you buy a luxury car? It seems to me those are equally important for luxury, and so the perfect luxury car is simply not available.
I fear this may sound snarky but I don't mean it that way; I'm not trying to put down your decision, just trying to make sure I understand it--I don't expect the Model S to be for everybody. Maybe you have not driven an EV before (?) and are unfamiliar with the benefits? Or maybe you have, but you see safety as the prime feature of luxury, and so the EV benefits are secondary? Or you feel some luxury gas cars are "close enough" that the EV benefits aren't that big of a deal?