My feeling is, most of the people who were looking at the 35k tesla Model 3 were not looking at a "35k" model 3. They were looking at a "25k" model 3. I have no proof, but I feel that pretty much everyone who did not jump on the 46k - 7500 (and for OP - another 2500 from california rebate, and another 500-1k if OP puts charger in garage), means that OP could have had a "36 k" mid range tesla model 3 with premium interior, that they could add EAP to "later" or not at all.
But, those people had done the math with the car being 35k minus 7500-10k, so..25k. Given how pretty "basic" the model 3 is to begin with as far as interior and options go, the mid range with the premium pack built into the price and no EAP was the clear winner there.
The "35k" Ev is going to be so basic that other than the exterior looks, a bolt or leaf will likely be a better choice from an options luxury feel.
Nothing wrong with those, they are nice cars but I dont like how they look... but if I had to choose between a bolt / leaf with their options, a base model 3, or an ICE car in that price range, I dont think I would choose the model 3.
If the choice was actually "35k car" then 46k minus 10k with the premium pack was the obvious choice to make, unless one was either stubborn about "I put a reservation on a 35k car" or was expecting a 25k model 3 which they are not going to get. By the time the standard range model 3 comes out, its going to be 35k minus 1875, or 35k minus zero (my opinion), so the value was already missed.
The good thing for OP is, that OP can get their money back and in 1-2 years there will be many more choices in this 35-50k space for EVs.