Not sure how the old use to work that you want back but my 22 Refresh rear always comes in in Auto mode. I don't use auto mode, front or rear so not a fan of this default. Computer doesn't learn what I like so Auto is not better.
As for the old being better, they have a word from the Big 3 back in the 1970s for what Tesla is doing, Decontenting. And I think it is only going to get worse with the TechNOking on a cutting rampage. If Supercharger team was cut, all is on the table.